Thursday, May 13, 2010

Who out there is married and there husband works and you stay at home?

Do you get bored or stay busy? I stay at home and I don't have kids but I stay busy most of the time. I clean all the time and cook for him. Thanks for or opinion!!!!Who out there is married and there husband works and you stay at home?
Not me now days women who stay home especially who don't have kids have the reputation of being cheaters.Who out there is married and there husband works and you stay at home?
Used to be, during first marriage when my kids were small, by choice because I didnt want to put them into daycare and pay somebody else to raise my kids. Then when they were both in school, I did volunteer work for 2 years, as training to get back into the workforce and to help the community. Then for 8 business partners with my husband (now ex husband) (and his trade, not mine) from purpose built workshop in our backyard. So I had the best of both worlds, working with husband, getting paid, but still being available for my kids, and had my own routine of juggling housework, shopping, kids, work, going to the gym, socialising, all part of a regular day. But.. as the marriage crumbled, I went back to college to seek my own career and for past 6 years have been working full-time in a professional career of my own choice. Luckily for me, I was financially independent when we divorced.





But... as much as I love my independence, somedays I just cant be bothered driving through the peak hour traffic and working long days, and yeah, I wish (if the finances allowed) I could stay at home, sleep in, potter around the house, or do whatever I wanted. Now the only time I have to do the things I want is on the weekends, which go by so quickly that I'm back at work on Monday morning before I know it.
My first husband and I did this. I think it's up to your own comfort level, but in the name of mental health, get involved volunteering somewhere or do something where you get out of the house.





You can not sit there focused on cooking and cleaning all the time. IT's also bad for your relatoinship because your world is him. IT's unhealthy to do that to such an extent for years and years. The dependency factor would likely become huge.





Besides at some point you may need to return to work and if you are out of circulation for too long, that will make it harder.
I've been married for 22 years. For the first 5years, I worked and he finished his college degrees and then got a good job. Then we had children and I have been home since. I devoted my time to my husband and kids, but managed to keep current in my field from home.





Now, my kids are teens. I am basically still home. As they have grown, I have worked in my field more and more - part of the time away from home, but mostly I work at home. I have managed to work around my husbands and children's schedules.





I am ALWAYS busy, never bored, and do take time to relax when I need a break. I cook some (kids are old enough to pitch in and husband cooks some as well) and keep the house pretty well (kids and husband help some there as well). I manage the finances and bills as well as everyone's schedules and he cares for the yard, home repairs, and vehicles. We have it split up pretty well - it works for us.





I've had a full time career and have stayed home with children and staying at home with children is way more work than a full time job.
yes, i stay at home. i did before we had kids too because he works away. gone two weeks and home a week. so by me being at home. when he came home we could spend optimal time together. I stay very busy now due to having two kids. a 9 month old baby girl and a 2 and a half year old boy, with dev. delays and possible autisim. to be honest, staying home those years prior to kids, was the biggest mistake of my life. i sacrificed everything for him. and do you know where it got me? it got me in a very bad situation to where now, i cannot seem to get out of. try to make some money for yourself, even if it is baking cakes and selling them at the farmers market and keep it in an account just for you. so that way if you find yourself in my situation you wont feel trapped like i do. take care.
me...I'm a retired baker with all four kids all grown up....recently remarried and the new hubby wants to work until age 68 so he's got ten years yet to go before he retires....





I stay very busy....I'm an old domestic by heart so I clean, do laundry, bake %26amp; cook from scratch, do inside projects like paint woodwork, cabinets, walls.....do flower gardening out on our large deck %26amp; the small patch of yard in front of our detached condo (cottage).





We have one bossy indoor tuxedo cat %26amp; a black %26amp; white papillon dog that I care for daily.





Besides, sometimes my PsA flares (a form of arthritis) and when that happens, being home is a godsend as it often attacks my ankles %26amp; my hands/wrists-plus my former job has left me with hip %26amp; shoulder bursitis, and aggravated the arthritis in my lower spine which can inhibit movement and can be quite painful.
I work full time, but sometimes I think I would just love the luxury of staying home. I think at first I would keep very busy cleaning, volunteering, etc... but after a few weeks I would probably lose motivation and begin to put things off thinking I can do that anytime.... So eventually I would be bored. But I envy you.
i stay at home but i have 3 kids. i clean, garden, cook and go to gym every day. i am busy but quite bored - i am actually a career woman. so i do not want to get just any job for the sake of going to work, i want smth decent and powerful but cos i have been stay at home loser woman and lost my time this ain't gonna happen. well, at least i got my university education so i do not feel like a complete loser. and gym keeps my bu''tt firm and perky which makes my husband to want to provide for me
I volunteer at one of our large nursing homes every so often. I don't do it for the money but I do it because it makes me feel good. I'll be taking my state exam for CNA on Monday and my hope is to actually work there as a CNA. The residents I come in contact with are wonderful, and they would like for me to be there on a full-time basis. Other than that, my husband's got a job as an EMT (absolutely LOVES it), and wants to challenge the board as a Paramedic. He was already trained as a Paramedic in the National Guard and he doesn't want to go to school and relearn it if he was trained less than a year ago.





For right now, my main focus is to study for my state exam, and taking care of the kids. I just so happen to be on a break right now. I also do chores around the house, and so on. I'm actually pretty busy altogether..I never get bored :)
I do, and I am very busy. I take 9 - 12 credit hours every semester, plus do all the housework and cooking, plus take care of our 2 kids (home in the summer, volunteer at the school during the year), and take care of our 2 dogs and 2 cats. Plus I volunteer at an animal rescue.
Working my own money gives me a high so I work part-time and balance three kids and online school. I still clean and make dinner for my family, take them to after school stuff, help with homework etc. This makes me happy.


Enjoy your freedom before the kids come, get out and do more-make yourself happy.
My husband does work and I stay at home too. I have a laptop so that keeps me busy and I am going to school in 2 weeks for nursing degree. Maybe you can join a book club or volunteer for boy's and girl's club. I also help my husband with his business too.
I am overly busy. We both are. With three kids and I homeschool, and being a neat freak I am always going, going, going. I love it though. How lucky are we to be taken care of?!?


No boredom here. I come up with zillions of little plans and ideas that are ever changing and keeping me interested.
I did that for a little while - my fist husband didn't want me to work - but I really missed socializing - I spent my whole time looking for jobs and couldn't wait to get out. I can only cook and clean so much.
yep my hubby's a otr driver,so I stay home,we have 3 kids,and I love it.Find your self a hobby or volunteer in your community,
Well, I have children so I don't get bored but I do get resentful. He gets to leave, have a break and I have to be at home.
I take care of the kids, clean and cook. I do get bored and try to bust out of the joint on weekends.
I am a stay at home wife/mother. I do get bored at times but I also take college classes online and I do get out with my friends at least once a week.
yes, please tell me so I can get my husband a job there and we can afford for me to stay home, too.
I have a lot of female friends who are stay at home wives, really good friends we are.
If you don't have kids or a very severe illness, why is he keeping you at home?

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