Do you think 18 and 19 is too young to get married or just engaged?

Me and my boyfriend have been going out for 10 months now but we have known eachother a lot longer than that. Hes always talking abour getting married and what it would be like. And he really wants to but he wants to right away.





Do you think 18 and 19 is too young to get married or just engaged?Do you think 18 and 19 is too young to get married or just engaged?
YES. My mom got married at age 19 and 30 years later she has regret. She never had the chance to experience life as a young woman. While girls her age are going to clubs and going to college, my mom was doing laundry!Do you think 18 and 19 is too young to get married or just engaged?
I don't think that is too young to get engaged or married. However, the way you are saying ';he really wants to but he wants to right away'; makes it seem like he is trying to pressure you into something you don't want, and like you are trying to use your ages as an excuse to not do it. Obviously this would not be a good situation to get married under.





I don't know what your situation is with sex, but if you haven't been sexually active with him, and especially if you're someone who would rather wait until marriage, I would suspect he is playing the engagement/wedding card for the sole purpose of getting some action. As in, he wants to be able to say ';well, now we're engaged, so it's okay for us to have sex!';





Of course, it's possible I'm seeing things in what you've written that aren't there, but please, have a think about these issues before you even consider staying with this guy at all, much less marrying him.
me and my wife where engaged when we where 18, after the summer of our senior year. We went off to college began that and planned our wedding for 2 years down the road. everything was great and we where married 3 months ago. i dont think its too young to get married but you need to be engaged for a little while, and also understand how the two of you will be once you get out of high school and start your adult lives. you need to make sure you have a plan and a foundation for you life and your family.
I believe that it is, I was married at 23 and I got divorced at 25. I'm sure both of you love each other, but I Feel that you two need more time to explore both of your interests after high school.





If you two are very committed, then continue seeing each other but please don't make a lifelong commitment if you are sure you can't give 100% to each other.





Don't make the same mistake I made, wait it out a bit longer. It will be worth it in the long run.
Hey! it is quite a young age to get engaged but you dont have to rush into the marriage! if you get engaged now it proves commitment for you and your partner to eachother but dont rush into the wedding wait a few years and make sure its the right thing for you to do, and if you do get engaged and everybody knows dont just go through with the wedding because everybody expects you too just because your engaged,see how it goes, good luck xxx
Well I got engaged when I was 18 still a senior in HS. My husband at the time was 23. Although he proposed to me, we never discussed the wedding. All I cared about is graduating. After I grad, we both wanted to live together first then worry about getting married.


Well as days, weeks, months and years past. We never planned a wedding, just continue to live together. Making and paying bills together. The only thing that didn't make us a married couple was the marriage license. It didn't bother us after awhile of not being married. We were in love and commitment to each other, didn't need a piece of people to tell us that.





We were engaged for 5yrs. Married now for 3yrs. Been together for 10yrs.
Well I think you should definitly wait a few years to get married, especially since you haven't been together that long, regardless of how long you've known each other.


But if you want to get engaged and have a long engagement, then go for it. I would definitly go to college and graduate from there first before getting married though. Both of you.
This age is far too young to get married as you should be out there travelling or working and saving money. Even getting engaged might be a buzz for you right now, but believe me you are really too young to know what you are truly looking for in a partner. How do I know you ask?, because I have been there and done this and have regretted doing so all my life.
YES! There is a 66%+ divorce rate. Let's say that again. You have better odds of winning in Vegas than staying married. AND, you will change so much in your 20's that NOTHING you want or are interested in now will be of interest to you in your late 20's. You'll grow apart. Don't be the 30 year single mom with 2 kids hunting for husband number two. There are plenty of them at every happy hour in every bar in your town, every night of the week. Go look around and see them for yourself. Study them. Imagine being one, hoping to land a new husband who will accept your baggage. Then blow off your boyfriend, get out and have fun for a few years dating as many guys as possible.
You still have a long way ahead. Take your time. Don't pressure yourselves to get married. If you were really meant for each other whatever happens, married or not, you'll still be together. Sometimes you thought you know each other very well, but, it's not until you live together in one same roof. Trust me. You're only 18 %26amp; 19, give yourselves an allowance till 23 or 24, then decide. At least, at this age you're matured and have your own profession as well as savings for your future family.
i was 20 and he was 23 when we got engaged after being together 3 years but we are now 24 and 27 and only just set the date for next year as we got side tracked by buying a house.





do what feels right when it feels right i say but you've not been together long at all so don't even think about marriage! if your going to be together forever, whats the rush? get settled first ie jobs house etc. then start thinking about it.
Pull the reigns in on that horse, and tell him to slow down. Yes, 18 is way too young to get married. Please live your teen life till it's fullest. Marriage comes with HUGE Responsiblities including a TON Of bills. None of which an 18 or 19 year old can handle. Get engaged, that is fine, but please wait until you are older to get married.
I dont think it's too young to get engaged if the couple is planning on having a long engagment and starting thier higher educations befor planning a wedding. It's definatly too young to be married though, your still learning who you are and what you want in life at 18 and 19.
Yes its way too young. I dont think that people realize that turning 21 is a big deal maybe one of you will enjoy drinking perhaps the other wont... it can cause problems.





If you two think you can make a marriage last then what is the rush? Stay in the relationship and wait it out until at least 22.





you still have college ahead of you and so on, just wait and see
Personally I believe the success rate is much better if you wait until your early 30's and have children in your mid to late 30's but it is a personal choice


You will have to really work at communication and keeping life interesting between the two of you as a couple if you marry that young
It depends what sort of person you are....


If you're mature and know you're going to stay with this person, then engagement should go ahead but marriage, you should think about.


Ask yourself the question: Am I happy to be stuck/with this person for the rest of my life (or somewhat 60 years..)
I got married at 19. My husband is 20. I don't feel it is to young. Some people do it see as young. But if you are sure that is what you want and will be happy. Do it. People all the time get married young. Good luck!
Yes, I think it's too young. You are not fully adults yet, and there is a chance you will either grow up together, or grow apart. Get engaged, if you must. But, don't get married!!
too young for marraige, too young for engagement too. wait another 8 years or so. you have no idea how much you will change in the next 8 years.
No, it's not too young. But if it were me, I'd wait at least another year...