You are in a horrible situation.
1) after a hysterectomy a women's libido can become nonexistent.
2) there is a DIRECT link between taking replacement hormones and breast cancer.
That being said, your wife just may need to be ';courted'; again. Make her feel beautiful, try to lay off the ';sex'; part (I know it's been a long time, but if you don't talk about it and still cuddle, love, little kisses without asking for sex, she may relax), talk about what you love about her, pick something out about her (sense of humor, understanding nature, etc..) and brag about it to people when she is around. As women age they tend to feel less attractive and can get depressed, especially in today's world of ';younger is better';. Make sure she doesn't see you ogle other women (not saying you do).
If all else fails, talk about going to couple's therapy. You would be surprised what you both learn about each other as well as yourselves. I find it commendable that you say you, ';love this women very much';. That to me speaks volumes.
Wishing you both lots of love and luck!Why do married women after having female surgery show no emotions or willingness to have sex!?
Perhaps your wife feels that without her lady-parts, she won't be able to please you. Marriage is a two-way street, the Bible states that neither of you should deny the other sex. Many women find that after hysterectomies, their sex drive is actually greater as there is no chance of getting pregnant. She still has a clitoris, which is the main organ on her body that provides orgasm. She can still have pleasurable sex. She may just think that perhaps she's too old to have sex, especially after having a hysterectomy. Talk to her about how you feel, explain each others' needs, and try to prove to her that you don't care what surgeries she's had, that you still love her with the same affection and passion as you did when you two were first married. If you get her to go to bed with you, make it about her pleasure as well as yours. Take your time with her, lots of kissing and foreplay. Treat her like a queen, as she's your queen. Best of luck to you.
Having a hysterectomy to a woman is like you being castrated. Not only are her hormones bottoming out (as is already suggested) but psychologically I'd imagine she doesn't feel like as much of a women anymore. First things first support her and listen to her when she tells you her feelings. Let her know you still love her, even if the intimacy has dropped. There is nothing wrong with hormone replacement therapy (HRT) and literally millions of women worldwide use it after menopause or a hysterectomy. Also counseling for your wife, and perhaps both of you as a couple, wouldn't be a bad idea either.
have you let her know how you feel??? I know that after a woman has a hysterectomy, her estrogen level are a lot lower, which may be the reason her her disinterest. i got my tubes tied when i was 24. you would think that would make me want it more, but in a way i regret it, because i totally lost my drive also after that. When a womans body knows that it can not make babies anymore, it seems to not care about sex. I dont know what to tell you to help. other than talk to her about it.
I as a husband disagree with that other woman, my wife had a hysterectomy and we have been married almost 18 years now, we have sex on a regular basis, we hug , kiss do all types of things, but your wife hormones maybe out of balance. She should talk to a Doctor, they have medicine for stuff like that. it's simple to take care of. Good luck..
You have two options; get her into therapy or get a divorce. I had a hysterectomy too, but I never lost my sex drive. People are different though, and if she had a low libido before, now she is using this surgery as an excuse to avoid sex altogether which is unfair to you and very selfish of her, in any case, either she goes for therapy or get a divorce.
She doesn't have the right balance of hormones in her system at the moment which is what happens when the womb is removed. She just needs to go to the doctor and get a hormone replacement, she will not believe how better she will feel all round,and the sex drive will come back with such a vengeance you will battle to keep up!!!! I promise!!! My husband and I are intimate everyday sometimes twice a day!!! So believe me when I say the hormones work!!!
her hormones are all out of whack. she feels less of a woman. the scar is ugly, shes embarrassed by it. youre probably loved but shes having a difficult time because of my previous statements. talk to her. reassure her. no pressure. WOOOOOO her!
if that doesnt work in time, either go along and have a ';side'; or leave.
make sure you tell her how u feel but pick a quiet time.
Maybe she feels like she lost some of her femininity with the surgery. Maybe she doesn't feel as sexy..losing that part of yourself that is so integral to being a woman can be very hard. Maybe try making her feel like she is the most beautiful thing you ever laid eyes on. Romance her a bit too!
Its all about hormones man. She has none left. Hysterectomy wipes out your sex drive and your hormones that drive those type of emotions of intimacy. She should see a doctor about getting on some hormone replacements or something else to help her.
if she lost her ovaries see the doc about ';EstraTest';... it's a hormone replacement specifically for this.
Didn't work that way with me. In fact, it was the opposite I suggest she see a counselor.
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