When do guys usually decide they want to get married?

This is a question for the guys... When do guys usually decide they want to get married? I've known that I've wanted a husband and children all my life, is it the same for guys? Or do they usually decide later on in life? At what age did you know that you definitely wanted to get married?





my boyfriend of 3 years said he has never even thought about marriage before. he is 23.When do guys usually decide they want to get married?
Guys mature slower than girls do. Keep that in mind. Not all guys but for most.





Um... maybe when he's 28 or even 34When do guys usually decide they want to get married?
I'm a girl, but I wanted to jump in here and give some advice based on my personal experience. It really has to depend on the guy and the chemistry of the relationship. I am 34 and have lots of friends who've gotten married at all different ages.





I don't think gender really matters, but one thing I do know is that guys can be scared of girls who start obsessing about getting married. It's more important to focus on nurturing a quality relationship in its current state because if you start to obsess about wanting to get married, that could drive him away. Both of you will lose sight of what really matters in a happy relationship, and he will start to get cold feet because he's worried he might not ever be able to please you. You gotta show your independent side and that you love yourself, that way you will be irresistable and he won't want to lose you. I know it's hard, but ultimately, marriage is a side effect of a happy relationship.





Hope that helps. :)
I never thought about getting married. I always wanted kids but never gave it much thought either when I was younger. I'm married now and have kids but it wasn't because I had it planned out.





Its not surprising he hasn't given it much thought. The emphasis for growing up, getting married, and having kids isn't there the same way it is for girls as they're children. There isn't anything wrong with him (or you). Most guys think about getting married when they're with a girl they want to marry. They're much more in the moment and women are much more in the ';future';... for better or worse for both men and women.
Left to their own devices, on average around 30.


There's a difference between abstractly wanting to someday raise a family and decided that ';it's time'.





At 23 he's just getting rolling in life and unless he's 'on the fast track' he's not in much of a position to support a family.


Sorry, the modern world is way out of touch with our biology.





If you think it's bad for you now... wait two years. You're going to go nutz, especially if some of your friends start getting married and having children. That's /not/ a good reason to marry him though. Make certain you love %26gt;him%26lt; not what he offers or it won't last.
When we've entered into a serious relationship with the sort of girl we thought we would never get and are fearful of never getting this lucky again... we begin to think about marriage.
speaking personally, I considered marriage when I was with my now wife for a long time, and I realized that I wouldn't be able to find anyone better than her (much less as good)





I realized it when I was 26
They get married when they are tired of trying to nail everything in sight.
Usually when they find out you're pregnant.
When the first grey hairs appear that kick-starts men into settling down.