If a couple have not become engage, married or made a civil contract?

If a couple have not become engage, married or made a civil contract, why then should it be considered a monogamous relationship? Just because one is dating even sexual it does not mean you have made a contract to be only with that person so why do some people consider if you are dating you cannot see other people?If a couple have not become engage, married or made a civil contract?
This sort of thinking is exactly why I don't date, not in this day and age...





If I am giving you my full and exclusive attentions, I expect as much in return; furthermore, the dating process is really in essence, at least as practiced by me, a mode of scouting a potential lifelong mate. Yes, the agreement is not yet made; but I'll be as unhappy at your toying with me, abusing my love and wasting my time as would anyone who had believed a great and lasting alliance was in the works.





The commitment may not be formally made, but it's presumed to be the ultimate intent. Not to mention marriage, engagement, etc. is I believe by most, regarded as just a little more than a legal contract for sexual obligation...If a couple have not become engage, married or made a civil contract?
Because most women that you date, whether or not you've had relations together, will kill, maim or dismember you if they even THINK you might have looked at another woman, or had innocent passing thoughts about one.





We males learned that key to survival very early on. Hence, the continuation of the species.......
Well, although I have heard of people having ';open'; or ';free'; relationships (whereby they are allowed to see other people as well), it really depends on what kind of relationship you and your partner are comfortable with.





If one had wanted a relationship whereby they can see other people, they should make it clear to the other partner before starting a relationship. Why? Because it is uncommon and also because it might be considered ';cheating';. Out of respect, one should make things clear beforehand. This will also prevent any messy arguments in the coming future.





Personally, if either one partner in the relationship disagrees or is not comfortable with such a plan, it is best not to continue the relationship. Unless of course one is willing to compromise. It is best when both partners respect each others decisions, are comfortable with it and agree to it. Isn't it uncommon to be dating more than one person unless you are a ';player';? So, bear in mind that your partner has that thought; that relationships involve mainly only 2 and not more. He/She would want to be your only one. Not ';sharing'; you with others.





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response to your update..


wow!


awesome! i hate cheaters by the way.. haha.. that's my own thing.. anyway... back to your question..





hmm.. tough question but hey...


would you rather play around or start committing to a boy/girlfriend and learn about relationships young?





also... to be serious in a relationship is a good way to move on to an engagement, marriage.. etc





would you rather be engaged to someone who has been seeing other people all the while or would you rather take your pick on someone who has shown commitment efforts?





without being serious and focussed on that relationship, how can one move to the next step?





and well... if you want to be dating different people at once, might as well not have any boy/girlfriends right?


those kinds of relationships are the ones many would want as exclusive. if you're not keen on that, might as well just stick to friends and not have that ';status'; of boyfriend or girlfriend.


because i don't see any difference between dating more than one person and having more than one friend.