How do you know that you are married to the wrong person?

She's not fat


She works


She's pretty hot in fact


The opposite of a frumpy wife





But what are the tell tale sings that she's the wrong one?How do you know that you are married to the wrong person?
Hmm... so let me get this straight, I wake up one day and am magically married to a woman who:





Is not fat


Works


Is pretty hot in fact


Is the opposite of a frumpy wife





Yet she is the wrong one...? I was with ya until that last bit. Now I am finding this question to be a serious stretch of the imagination here. (←_←)





Okay okay *fine* I'll play along.





I wake up, and run through the checklist above, thinking, ';yeeaahh, see if I am *EVER* on Y!A again...'; I pull the shades and grin, and as I lean over to kiss her, I choke back a terrified scream and almost die of a heart attack.





But I cannot, because I am already dead! And of all the possible horrors I could be subjected to, I am stuck in my own personal HELL... where *every single (and married!) woman* (including this gorgeous specimen of a human being laying next to me)...





Looks just like *ME*!!!





o_O;





At that moment I look back on what a pain in the @rse I am to live with, as well as my insatiable libido (this would be taking self-pleasure to a horrifying extreme), and (this is the worst part) my INCESSANT TALKING!! (O_O)





And then I know without a single doubt that she's the wrong one.





::shudder::





How do you know that you are married to the wrong person?
If you have been unhappy more of the time than happy when you have been with her or thinking of her. Sometimes you have a wonderful initial romance with someone and then you actually get to know one another and it goes down hill and all you have are your beginning memories. In this case, you may not be right for one another. (If this happens with you with everyone you meet then you might have to examine your own pattern of behavior in relationships)





If you have been happy most of the time, but recently feel unhappy (It is all relative--if you have been married ten years and the last two have been bad--or married three years but the last year has been bad, etc--you have to be the judge of if it has been a long or short time compared to your marriage)--then you might want to explore what is happening in your lives right now or what has been happening .





You would not have married this person if you felt she was the wrong person for you. So something has changed. If it is something related to basic honesty/trust/faithfulness then you have to decide if that is a deal-breaker--most people would say yes. Also if it involves abuse of any kind--towards you or other people, etc.





There are no other clear signs--You have to know how you feel. examine your own feelings...The ';positives'; you list about your wife are all very nice but they are all superficial/material things--she works-is not fat-is hot--A Successful, happy marriage requires much more than having an attractive well-paid, hot partner. It involves kindness, mutual respect and consideration, some common interests and the ability to be open to your partner's interests, a desire to be committed and share common goals and dreams, and the perseverance and determination to get through the tough and boring times that are a part of every marriage. Yes, passion is key too, but it is not the only thing, and I have often noticed that marriages that are able to maintain their passion over decades--(And yes--they have bad times too), are those where the non-passionate qualities of kindness and all the other things I mentioned are very strong. It's hard to stay passionate about a marriage when you feel like someone doesn't really care about you, or is basically not a nice/kind person.





anyhow--that's my late night advice. Good luck.
She's the ';wrong person'; if she is cheating on you(not with her job, or the kids, or her hobbies, but having sex with another person) or if she abandons you (not emotionally or spiritually or any new agey way, but picks up and moves away). If you haven't been cheated on or abandoned by her then God says in the Bible that He wants you to be married to her.
Your reasons are all superficial and have no weight:


She's not fat


She works


She's pretty hot..





I mean besides ';she works'; which is like...who the hell doesn't work with the economy the way it is....I mean she doesn't sound like much...at least not much to you..





So there are two options:





1. You settled for something lackluster





2. You expect too much and aren't telling more about how great this person is and you are going through some grass is greener stage where you feel like you want out cus you think you can get something better....and I'll tell you one thing





Grass is rarely ever greener....





it is just different grass.
What are you talking about? If she is all the things you say she is, then why are you questioning if she is the wrong person? There is obviously a lot more to this for you to even ask this question. However, if you do not have anything in common, you dont enjoy each others company anymore, no sexual interest, you do things separately not as a couple or family if thats applicable. These are some tell tales signs.
Given your superficial info, your question actually sounds bitter but I'll answer it anyways.





The phrase is,';tall tale signs'; by the way...





Tall tale signs would be;





She cheats on you


She doesn't help with the chores around the house


She bitches at you constantly


She spends money terribly


If you find that you two cannot hold an adult conversation and are always arguing.


She doesn't find any interest in you, whether if it's communication wise or in the bedroom.





and lastly, you don't find interest in her. If this is the case even if you find money is low, make a point to go out and do something together that is different once and awhile.
Pretend you are single. If you wouldn't go out with her, she's probably wrong for you. If you are married, though, you ought to work hard to get things going again. It's pretty easy for real life to take over, and you find yourselves forgetting why you are together. If you look in the right place, you'll probably remember.
she doesn't have to be skinny, she doesn't have to work, she doesn't have to be a trumpy/frumpy wife; if you love her, and she loves you, then that's all it matters.





you should already knows if she's wrong already;


- if you don't trust her, or if she doesn't trust you,


- no communation,


- cheater, liar, unfaithful.






It is a very relative term as such.





No one should have a car better than mine -


No one should have a house better than mine -


No one should have clothes better than mine -


and so on..........





But all people should think as I think,





So the wrong may exist in oneself. Constraint is best medicine.



If you're married to her -- she's the one. Buy books, attend conferences, study how to make it work. A different woman just brings different problems you'll have to work through. Nobody's perfect. Accept her as she is. Treat her like a precious treasure and make conscious choice to overlook her faults.
A lot of people out there who are not bad-good looking, nice people, good social skills, work and have a decent income and it still seems so difficult to find the 'right' one. Attraction is just not there, you don't feel right, you don't feel good, you feel something is wrong
When you realise that you're not yourself anymore. Basically, you become a shadow of your former self. Ask your family and friends if you're the same person you used to be or if you've lost that ';spark'; they used to see in you. People on the outside often see it before we do.
If you have high blood pressure with her! Sounds funny, but I found it to be true. I was with mr wrong and on real strong blood pressure meds, now I am with mr perfect for me and they have been cut in half twice! I need to go back I could probably get off them completely now.
When she's more demanding, dangerous, and capricious than the god of the Old Testament.... and not even a proper goat sacrifice will subdue her.
She just doesn't fit.


The conversations


Humor


Family


Affection


Bad chemistry discovered.






she's probably wondering why she married someone who doesn't wash his hair.
Divorce papers being served from either side.
you don't appreciate her or the institution of marriage and I think you know this.
I once thought of injecting my husband with embalming fluid....and I knew then he was the wrong person.
if you are asking it's because she IS the wrong person for you.


if not there would be NO doubt in your mind !!
by reading your last 2 questions...sorry you seem unhappy as i
if you question ur relationship wit her..
When she kicks you out and divorces you?
well when you are sorry for marry her
how the hell am i suppose to know?


im underage!!!


geez!


how much crap are you asking?


sorry im pissed of


just trying to get my anger out!!!!!