What would you literally do if you found out that the man you've been dating was actually married?

and you had already fallen in love with him. but you didn't know he was married until you had already been dating and fallen in love.What would you literally do if you found out that the man you've been dating was actually married?
Oh, this happened to me several years ago. It makes you feel like it's your fault and then you begin to wonder what to do. The right thing - dump him or the wrong thing - stay with him because you love him. I had to dump him - thought about the long term and knew the right thing to do was to dump him. This will be a decision you will have to make - and it's not easy. Good Luck :)What would you literally do if you found out that the man you've been dating was actually married?
Did he tell you or did you find out some other way? If he didn't tell you himself he has no intention of leaving his wife. Most married men don't ell until they are sure you are in love and will accepted being 2nd best.Ln my opinion married men cheat, not necessarily because they don't love their wife or children, but because they can have the best of both worlds. A wife at home to take care of all the mundane parts of marriage and exciting sex with another woman. Part of the thrill is the secrecy and the other is no obligations. Leaving out the part of the deception to his, wife who maybe would be your friend if you met her under different circumstances, what about of your life of uncertainty that he won't leave you when you make any kind of demands as far as his marriage is considered, or he tires of you, seeing him only when it's convient for him, never being able to go out with him for fear someone will find out, loneliness on holidays, which he will spend with his family, and never being able to introduce him to your family or friends. If you are willing to endure all that for a married man you love then it's your choice.
What do you mean, actually married? Is he separated from his wife and no longer lives with her?





If he is still living in the same house, without a separation agreement- move on!!





Why didn't he tell you his marital status? Do you want to be involved with a liar and a cheater?





You are asking for heartache, big time!!
Dump him. Do you SERIOUSLY have to ask?? I don't blame you for dating a married man if you didn't know that he was married, I blame you for wanting to CONTINUE dating him since you now know that he's married. Oh, and it doesn't matter if he still lives with her or if the are separated. Unless he shows you divorce papers and that divorce is final, HE IS STILL MARRIED!
The time line sucks big time, but the outcome is easy to see that the course is a rocky one with no real intentions of him leaving his wife. His lying speaks volumes for his goal. That is to keep both women in his life and lead two lives with double sex and relationships. Dump him as the separation from his wife is up in the air and he will cheat again on his next spouse if that would happen down the road. The choice is logical but those people who decide to stick it out are only fooling them self that it will work out. Time to move on.....
Ask him what he intends to do firstly. Is he wanting to divorce his first wife. Were they separated before he met you? Does he have any children?





You are 'the other woman' would you be able to trust him again? He's lied to you thus far or did you fall in love on the first date....I doubt it. Get rid I say and find a man who can be up front with his present and past. He obviously is selfish - he saw you he wanted you and he took you...knowing all the time that wifey was at home waiting for him.





Sorry my dear but you need to check out the guys you go out with. Surely you must have suspected something. What about Christmas and other official holidays....what was his excuse about not being there for you on those times...or what was his excuse to his wife. Either way he's lied. If these hols haven't happened yet - then you havent been with him that long and are probably more in lust than in love....Get rid I say. He could string you along for years - get someone free and single who is open and honest about who he is. For all you know this man could have a string of other ladies. He's lied once and believe you me he'll continue to do so...in fact he is living a lie isn't he and you are the one who'se gonna get all the fall out. You are worth so much more than this. Of course you going to be upset and hurt if you break up - but what do you think his wife will be going through.





If you are both so in love and he decides to divorce his wife then so be it. But whilst that process is going on dont see him - do you really want to be named on the divorce papers as someone who broke up a marriage.
My nan was in this situation. My grandad lied about his age, and marriage, kids. When she found out, she was already in love. She was very young, 17 at the time. What I think happened, they were in a affair for years then nan got pregnant and my grandad finally left, on his son birthday! (sounds like a soap!) their still together thrirty years later.





I personally never do it
Prepare yourself to confront him. Ask him why he kept this information from you. Realize that he has been lying to you and that no relationship will flourish when someone is constantly lying. Get ready to move on to someone who cares more about you than this guy and tell him to hit the road.
would make no difference I wouldnt have anything to do with him....he is not ideal marriage maerial...and he has proven it.....I would drop him...fast...and let his wife know that he was pretending to be single....what she does with that information is up to her....but at least she will know what kind of a cad she has married....oh and I would give him a peice of my mind for mucking me around and being so deceitful : )
I've had that happen to me exactly one time - found out after our 2nd date - and he made light of it entirely, which caused me to do the only thing I could - never see him or talk to him again.





Married people are off limits in my book.
falling in love is not an excuse to disregard common sense. He is a liar and a cheat.. If he he'd do it to her, he would surely do it to you. So, I would let him go. Cut all ties. Avoid any interaction with him at all costs.


It will hurt but your Mr. Right is on the way...
I would sit down a talk to him and say why did u cheat on your wife with me and if u cheat on her u will do the same with me!!! I have 2 let u go because I do not want to get my heart broken so u need to let her go or me!





And u need to see what he says
he can not be the man for you. He did not tell you he is married, further he is a cheater and a liar. do not believe he will ever leave his wife for you, please don't go on with this.
Ask yourself if you would ever be able to trust this man. Isn't that the most important thing? Once a horse jumps the fence a horse always wants to jump that fence.
Be ready to accept the loss. Let him know that it is over and never to bother you again. He lied to his wife, what makes you think he will not lie to you? Cut your losses and move on.
Make sure you have an escape route in any public place you go so that you can get away from the cast of CHEATERS when they run up to you with their cameras.
I would hate him enough to break up with him swiftly. Love cannot survive this kind of lie and a person who thinks it can is self-deceived.





Same as with any other kind of deal breaker. We can survive heart-aches and don't have to make them permanent fixtures in our lives.
Accept that I never really had him anyway because the man I loved did not have a wife. I'd leave him, but not before making sure that his poor wife knew what the dirty pig had been up to.
Make sure they divorce and go to marriage counseling.
Dump him and don't look back! It may hurt but you will hurt more long term if you stay with him!
i would feel more humiliated knowing i was a booty call...
Find out if he is love with his spouse.
I honestly would have to call it off. If he lied about something this big then can you imagine what else he has or will lie about!
Maybe a trip to the spay and neuter clinic?