I've heard men say that women change after marriage and vice versa.
I live with my boyfriend and our son and I ';think'; that I wouldn't change after marriage, but then again who knows.
Did you change? Did your other half change?What is the difference between living together and being married?
The one thing that changed in my relationship was that now when we fight he can't just break up with me. When we were dating and got into an argument he would always break up with me. I moved out twice. Now that we are married he can't do that. We have to actually work through the problem which has actually made our relationship much stronger.What is the difference between living together and being married?
The changes in my husband after marriage, I believe, would have taken place if we'd married or not.
I don't think my marriage certificate had anything to do with it.
The only difference is- as my little sister said earlier today- when you break up with someone you aren't married to, it's a hell of a lot cheaper and quicker.
Marriage is a legal bond and a commitment before god. Living together is just being roommates. Both situations are good depending on who you are.
It does change the way each person act and how you see each other, but that is not a bad thing. Marriage should not be entered into lightly because its a legal contract.
Slipping out the back Jack is an option, easier when unmarried.
It really depends. The best way to tell is exactly what you're doing now comviviendo antes de que se casen. What changes people isn't marriage it the living together that ***** things up. When you've never lived with someone or just family then you move in with a guy who has his own habits, culture and schedule it can complicate things. It sounds cliche but you need to REALLY know some one to make the commitment.
When men say ';women change after marriage';, they mean a few things:
* That women let their looks go and just don't care anymore
* That women become more demanding
* That women feel more comfortable and expect more
Stuff like that.
If your personalities don't change after you get married, then you're golden.
The difference between being married versus being single is all about economics.
If you were married, then went through a divorce, you would need to pay a lawyer to help end the relationship.
Since you aren't married, and if the relationship failed, you would still need to consult a lawyer in regards to child support and custodial partnership.
I know a half-dozen live-ins that married and it changed.
The key idea of marriage is commitment. Its a lifelong promise. You don't have that now. You have some commitment, maybe even some words, but there is a degree of commitment you have not given each other. There exists the opportunity to walk out the door. The opportunity, though still there, is at its smallest after you married.
Two snowflakes can fall 6 inches away from each other, but be on the continental divide, and when they melt they end up on opposite sides of the world. Thats SHACKING-up versus marriage. Superficially it looks very alike to marriage. It does. Thats like saying all cars are alike, or all white people look the same. Its fundamentally radically different.
The six inches that ends up being a continent wide is the level of commitment - the promise made before God, in the eyes of the law, in the norms of the society, and in the full view and context of the people who make up the communities of which you are a part.
I believe its for financial reasons.
living together, marrage, it dont matter, because everyone changes, you are not the same person you was 2 years ago, with marrage, you have a sense to stay and try to make it work. you dont have the easy to get up and leave, as if you was just dating or living together, and your home becomes a picture for all to see. usually when living together you have a fight, one leave, stay at a friend house, parents, whever, but marrage change that, you dont want your friend and family invole in your sistution, asking questions, being your bussiness, so u try, make it work, and keep working at it. marrage isnt hard, that the easy part, it the art of staying married that is diffcult. might be the hardest thing in life to do, beside rasing kids. you can make a child happy, but to make you spouse happy day in, and day out, with the rest of your days on earth is a hard task. that the different between being married and living together. (staying married)
The legal aspects of marriage makes the two very different.
No, neither of us changed. We also lived together for 8 months BEFORE we got married.
I think the 'changing' is the adjusting to the other's habits when you finally DO move in together. If you get past that, you'll be fine.
once you get to know thing about them like how they live and want things done youll know what they mean by ppl change.
my hubby used to be clean every time id visit him his room would be clean and all know our house is messy b/c of him he says im the lady so i should do all chores he leaves his clothes EVERYWHERE and eats and drops crumbs all over farts all the time just pretty much changes overall by letting loose but i do love him and im getting used to his new him. it was frustrating at first but you start getting used to it!
yes we both did not just him i changed in the way that i used to get angry at everything he did but then again i had nevr lived with anyone other then my fam.
Things with my current husband did not change, however, I was married and divorced a few years back and he most definitely changed. He was so charming before, and then turned nasty. We didn't have any children together though. Some people find it financially easier to be married. Others don't see the need. For some people it's a frame of mind, like their options are still open without the vow and making it ';legal'; Others like the comfort of knowing that they have that paper. So it all depends on you and your partners frame of mind. I hope that whatever you end up on things go well and you stay happy together.
Depending upon where you live, laws do not protect you in the same way as if you were married, such as with property and children. You need to draw up documents that spell out your intent about whose is whose etc. In marriage you make vows in front of community and court that are very clear about your romantic and legal intent and your serious commitment to the family you create from the union. You do not change your personality but are conscious of the bond you have created.
I lived with my husband 7 years before we got married.. not much changed we have kept our bank accounts separate so no arguments about money.. I think it just depends on each situation some guys think that with the ring on your finger they own you and rules become more strict.. not in our case..if you guys have a good smooth relationship now I can't see much changing aside from your last name.
Marriage has a much higher level of Commitment.
the difference if you are not happy you simply can not leave so make sure your happy and think you will be for a while
The only difference is a piece of paper and the $50,000 that went towards wedding rings, dresses, ceremony, and reception.
marriage is a legally binding contract ( that's why it takes a court to dissolve it)
no changes here, but waited till we were sure it was what we wanted before moving in together
Nothing to me but a piece of paper! To me it made things complicated!
He definately changed and I had to adapt to the new him so in turn I had to change as well.
I don't think that people necessarily change after marriage. My husband and I lived together before we got married and we're still the same. As long as both people are on the same page about what marriage means to them, and have been true to who they are as people, you'll be fine!
Everyone changes. They will do that marriage or not. Life itself demands change as we grow and mature. Sometimes change is for the best and sometimes it's not so great.
Sadly, sometimes married people grow apart because one partner grows in a different direction. But it isn't always like that.
My husband and I have changed a lot since marriage. we have grown up, grown closer and have the same interests.
We have changed but the things in the relationship that are important to us have remained the same.
being married is making a promise infront of God and ppl, u promise that u'll always live with ur bf. But being together is just staying together with ur bf whithout any commitement
I think expecting things to change is where people get in trouble with marriage. A lot of people in relationships where they have doubts, have pipe dreams of that piece of paper somehow fixing everything.
We aren't married yet, but I sure hope it doesn't change a thing when we are.
We lived together for 11 years before marriage and I did change. For the better though. We always had a commitment to each other but never got married because we wanted to be sure...like SURE. We are kids of divorced parents. Divorce is not an option for us. We take those vows very seriously.
I think when we weren't married I always had this little voice in my head that wondered when the day he'd leave me would be (was he waiting until the kids were grown and gone?) and I'd be blind-sighted because we have a wonderful relationship and never would have seen it coming.
So when we got married, it was like both of us saying...';yes, I'm sure...forever';
I feel more secure so I don't mind as much when he goes to friends houses, and comes home a little late. I know that he wouldn't have married me if he didn't want to be with me and only me.
His changes are positive too in direct result of my changes. Since I'm more secure, I give him more leeway and he doesn't feel like I'm leashing him, so he doesn't feel the need to go out as much.
so far the only thing i've changed is my last name! we lived together for 2 years so we knew everything about each other before. really there's not a difference between marriage and living together except with marriage you're legally bonded. best wishes
nothin really. marriage just legalizes living together and is just a piece of paper. It doesn't change anything. at least living together is easier if you break up.
The marriage bed determines what you can and cannot do.
The laws are also quite specific. Taxes, ownerships,death benefits, obligations. Children's rights.
nothing except if one of you is sneaky just like sniggles
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