What are some social stigmas attached to getting married in college?

Not planning to, just a random descussion between me and my girlfriend. Both of us feel there is some, but we don't have any clue what they are. :DWhat are some social stigmas attached to getting married in college?
We got married in college. I was 20 and he was 23. We encountered a LOT of social stigmas...





1) Everyone assumed we were way too young.


2) People assumed we wouldn't stay together for long.


3) People assumed we wouldn't be able to make ends meet.


4) People assumed that I would get pregnant and we would drop out.


5) People just in general assumed it was stupid to not wait without even having a reason sometimes.


6) People thought we would not be able to handle the pressure of working AND being in school AND marriage.


7) People thought we would go DEEP into debt and never recover.





That's all I can think of for now. Let me say that we are still together and doing great, graduated, paid off our debts, we made ends meet (barely) and that we were too young to get married! lol. But we love each other and we worked through some rough times. We got some financial help from our parents when we got stuck once, and we worked VERY, VERY hard and we probably didn't need too if we had waited. However, being thrifty and smart--we survived!





IF you are thinking about it. I would offer a few words of advice:





1) Don't have credit cards, just keep one with a VERY small limit for EMERGENCIES only...we got into a lot of trouble with that!!!!!





2) Ignore what people say, and take your time finishing school (part time classes) if being married is really important to you. Just make sure that school remains a priority!





3) Realize that you will suddenly have a different focus than most other people at college and it will be hard to make friends as everyone else wants to go drink and hook up...while you have to go to work tomorrow and go home to a person who could be getting on your nerves! LOL





Lastly, EVERYONE will expect you to fail, because in reality--most people do. Be very cautious, don't spend money on a wedding, keep your priorities straight, and learn to laugh and you will survive. Marriage isn't about love or some secret ingredient. Its about respecting each other and a lot of hard work. If you have this, then you can survive the hard times and still fall in love at the end of the day when your spouse does something special or funny that makes you remember why you fell in love with them at the beginning.





Best of Luck!What are some social stigmas attached to getting married in college?
Oooh. Lots of people will tell you that you'll get divorced soon, that you're too immature for marriage, that you won't be able to handle life financially, that you'll want to cheat all the time...people may also assume that your girlfriend is pregnant and you're doing a shotgun wedding (this is what happened with my hubby and I...everyone kept asking, ';So what's your due date?';





But don't base your decision on what other people think. Base it on whether you two think you can handle marriage. My husband and I have a great marriage and healthy finances...his sister is eight years my senior and her marriage is falling apart, their finances are in the gutter, and her kids are caught up in the mess. Age is not a solid indicator of success or failure.
The only issues people would have would be that you are rushing things and that your being irresponsible by not waiting until you are out of school. It's not a huge deal if you've been together for a long time. I knew a few people that did.
if you didn't graduate because of it or if you had a baby before you were ready
It's stupid, too early, and usually doomed to failure.