Am getting married and my mother wont be there?

I recently got engaged the wedding is Aug of '10....I lost my mother almost 5 years ago and i wondering what can i do to for like a memorial...i was thinking of carrying a single lily down the aisle and putting it on the seat where the mother of the bride would sit...I need some more ideas does anyone have any?Am getting married and my mother wont be there?
This is not a memorial, this is a wedding. Print something in the bulletin or have the pastor say something. But do not put any pictures of her up, or flowers in empty chairs. Like I said, this is not a funeral or memorial service.Am getting married and my mother wont be there?
The wedding is NOT about your mother and not to be made into a memorial for your dead mother! A wedding is a happy occasion not a sad one.


I suggest you have a normal wedding and thats it. You dont need to announce or make everyone feel sad to realize or remember that your mother is dead/ not there.


A wedding is about the couple marrying, nothing else!





The only acceptable thing is to add something in the ceremony cards given to guests (listing the order of events at the ceremony). Putting something in simple about how you wish your mother could have been there or something. But nothing more than that.
One of my cousins lost his dad when he was a little boy. Right before the ceremony started the priest announced that the couple would light a candle as a memorial for his father I found that very touching and emotional. I like the idea of the lily but it might be way too emotional for that day; remember you mommy will be with you sharing that special moment anyway.
Do you have a piece of her jewelry that you could wear? Or if you have a small picture of your Mom you could put it into a charm frame http://www.preciousaccents.com/c-picture鈥?/a> and tie it into your bouquet with a ribbon. You could also make a memorial candle and have someone light it prior to the ceremony. A small mention in your wedding program would also be appropriate. Whatever makes you feel like your Mom is with you on that special day is what you should go with.


Don't pay any attention to the posters that tell you it's a wedding, not a memorial service. Maybe they don't know the pain of losing a Mother.
that sounds like a great idea, you can also do a unity candle with her picture on it and have the pastor ( or whoever is marrying you) say a few words about how you wish your mom could be there


here are some pictures of the candles they would go by the unity candles if you are having them, up front during the ceremony





http://forevermylovecandles.com/images/f鈥?/a>





http://farm4.static.flickr.com/3133/2637鈥?/a>
Have a moment of silence after reading a poem (or passage of a poem) about her. You can also light a candle during this part. I'm sooo sorry for your loss and remember she will be watching over you that day with great love.
Find her favorite song %26amp; make a slide show of pictures with you %26amp; her in it. I like the lilly idea too!
I think it should be something simple





Remember, this is your new life that you are starting out.


Think about your future.
Ignore people who tell you not to do anything, to focus on your future and not your past, that it is rude to bring up the awkwardness of a deceased relative, etc. Bullcrap. If they don't want to memorialize their dead mothers at their weddings, then fine. But you clearly feel you would like to, and that is entirely understandable.





Your mother was a big part of your life, and she would have been a huge part of your wedding had she not passed away. I think often people who haven't lost their mother don't understand this.





It's mostly up to your personal preference and what feels right to YOU. Please don't obsess over whether so-and-so is going to think it's creepy you're putting a flower on her chair, etc.





I have been to weddings where someone has walked a white flower down the aisle and put it in the pew where the mother of the bride would have sat. I thought it was fine and worked well.





In my own personal preference, however, I'm not a big fan of having the rose be on a chair in the reception. This seems creepy to me (again, just me, maybe not you) and it can be awkward if, as the party gets going, someone goes to grab that chair or sit down...I was at a wedding once where there were a few good-natured jokes about ';the ghost of Mary'; taking up the seat. (Not as horrible as that sounded.)





Alternatively, you could have the officiant briefly mention your mother and how much she would have wanted to be there, etc., and then have a moment of silence in remembrance of her. Then move on.





Or, at the reception, you could make use of something your mother loved. Say, chocolate chip cookies or a drink or other food, and put it out with her photo and a note saying, ';Please have one in honor of Mary.'; or whatever.





Best of luck finding the way to remember your mom at your wedding that is authentic for you!
I don't know, that whole empty seat thing is creepy to me. you can either write a memorial poem for the ceremony programs that you're having printed, or light a candle in her memory during the ceremony instead of a unity candle. because unity candles are the dumbest sappiest S**T ever.