Can you explain to me how gay people getting married makes straight people want to divorce their spouses?

I don't see how gay marriage threatens traditional marriage. If you want to get divorced, it's probably because you don't like your straight spouse, right?


If you really want less promiscuity and more committed, monogamous relationships, then you should be PROMOTING gay marriage. The more marriages the better ... right?Can you explain to me how gay people getting married makes straight people want to divorce their spouses?
The USA would be a much better country if everyone would just mind their own business and stop trying to force their personal beliefs on everyone else.





If we are to be a truly a free people, then you should be pretty much free to live your life as you please.Can you explain to me how gay people getting married makes straight people want to divorce their spouses?
';I don't see how gay marriage threatens traditional marriage.';





It completely redefines a concept that's been around for thousands of years. People don't want it redefined. It doesn't threaten instances of marriages, it threatens the meaning as a whole. This is a democracy / republic, if the majority of people don't want it redefined, they get their way, that's how this process works. That doesn't mean we should treat homosexuals like second class citizens, we can give their unions the same recognition we give marriage, but I think that those that want the definition of marriage to remain as is should be heard, they are the majority after all.
You do not seem to understand what marriage is.





It is not weddings, cakes, veils, carpels, receptions, etc. Marriage is not love or a commitment or any of the trappings and romantic stuff we associate with it. You can do all of that stuff without being married.





So, what is marriage?





Marriage is one thing and one thing only. It is a Standard. It is the standard of behavior recognized thousands of years in civilized countries all over the world. Before there was such a thing, people probably had multiple partners of various genders and babies were born without knowing who the fathers were.





What became apparent, is that one particular model of behavior was superior to all of those. It was the best possible model for a successful and orderly society. That model was one man joined to one woman, forsaking all others and responsible for the children that resulted from that monogamous union.





It proved best for society, best for the participants and best for children. Children are unquestionably better served by having a mother and a father. That, was and still is the ideal standard.





To allow anything else is to render the standard meaningless. Render the standard meaningless and marriage becomes irrelevant. So, if gay marriage or polyigomous marriage ever becomes legal, then there is no longer any standard and marriage has no meaning.





It is a simple and as profound as that.





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Gay marriage does not threaten traditional marriage at all. I don't know why anyone would ever say that it does. Personally, I believe gay marriage is wrong though. Marriage was created by the church, and outlined as being between a man and a woman. The church also condemns same sex relationships... so why would they bend their own rules to accomodate people who are going against what they teach? If same sex couples desire a ';union';, they should have the right to one. Give them some sort of tie that says that they're entitled to the same RIGHTS as heterosexual couples, but just don't allow them to have a RELIGIOUS ceremony.





The only reason straight couples say it ';de-values'; their marriage is because gays are picking and choosing which rules to follow. Its like granting illegal immigrants citizenship- while a bunch of hardworking legal immigrants, who spent months- if not YEARS- trying to get into the country, stood by and watched. MARRIAGE is meant for a man and a woman... that doesn't mean that gays can't create some other kind of civil union of their own. They could even keep all the heteros out of the loop.
I think the feeling is that if a marriage between two men or two women is seen as the same thing as a marriage between a man and a woman, the traditional marriage is devalued and loses its central place in our social order as well as the sense of holiness with which many people regard it. Trying to convince those who see homosexuality as wrong is probably not going to be very prodcutive. But they are a minority and getting smaller. Time will solve this one.
Since nobody said that was going to happen, doesn't that make your question foolish?





But perhaps you might want to look at how traditional marriage dropped precipitously in the Netherlands and Belgium when they legalized same-sex marriage.





The fact is that there are potentially ruinous societal results of allowing it, and you are completely oblivious to the possibility. Why not let it play out longer in other countries before embarking on such a significant change whose effects are little known or understood?





Because once the genie is out of the lamp, it isn't going back in.





This is called prudence and wisdom.
Gay marriage doesn't affect my marriage one bit. I've never understood how it supposedly undermines family traditions. It's not like it's forced on anyone. Those who don't agree have that right but personally I believe in marriage whether it's for straight or gay couples.





EDIT: Angels_h, according to your logic people who don't want children or are physically incapable of reproducing shouldn't marry? Should older couples who are widowed or divorced stay single because you think marriage is for reproduction? The times they are a changing...
Personally, I believe that marriage should be between a man and a woman. That's why I married a WOMAN!





But I fail to see how gay or lesbian couples getting married is any more of a threat to my way of life than the couple who hosts swinger parties once a month down the street from where we live. Bottom line........what consenting adults do behind closed doors is NONE of my business. So go ahead an get married if you want, just spare me the parade.
Why would you get on here and ADVERTISE how little you know of the subject?





Gay Marriage forces the DEFINITION and PRINCIPAL of the institution of Marriage to be changed.





';Marriage'; isn't simply about saying, ';I love you';... but about establishing the FRAME WORK for the raising of OFFSPRING.





Gays can't produce kids, so the institution of Marriage DOES NOT APPLY to them.
I myself dont see what the big fuss is about. Its like some people think if we allow gay marriage, we somehow see that as some sort of ';dark day for America';. Since gay couples can pretty much do whatever they want anyway, except visit their s-other in a hospital, what difference does it make to the right-wingers? Let them get married and have the same rights as everyone else. It doesnt hurt anyone at all.
It's catching you see. Much like the swine flu. If Suzy and Jane down the street get married it infects everyone. Courthouses will be swarmed by straight couples seeking divorce who just don't find each other attractive anymore. It'll be too late for a vaccine so on top of everything else the birth rate will flatten out and the human race will become extinct. This can't be borne! Viva la Ignorance!!
in parts of europe it is already considered to be politically incorrect for a child to say mother and father...because it goes against the same sex marriage.......do you really want that here?...in some schools children are not allowed to refer to their fathers as father or dad.....but only a ';parent';...wake up
Traditional marriage takes place in a church, it's a religious ceremony. Religious people want to keep it out of the church and most religious sanctions are against homosexuality.
You are totally missing the point. (on purpose?) It doesn't threaten my marriage of 40 years, it threatens the whole idea of what marriage is.


It takes value away from what my husband and I have.


It cheapens the whole idea of what marriage is.
marriage is between a man and a woman.there is no such thing as gay marriage since it is not a union between a man and woman.
when a ';gay';couple


has traditional sex,


has a baby the traditional way.


they can have my traditional marriage.





call it something else.
Straight people will just all fly into a dither if gays get married!!! Really!! They all want to get divorced and marry the guy at work in their own gay-marriage ceremony..... Rush Limbo is marrying Glen Beck....





Sooner or later... you'll go gay! Enjoy!
As a rule...it doesn't. It is strange that they choose to fight against gay marriage while ignoring the 50% divorce rate. I'm sure that 1.5 MILLION could be better spent helping straight couples strengthen their relationships.
Nobody could ';make'; me gay.


I don't think any one or any situation could ';make'; you gay.


You're born that way, just like I was born straight.


I don't care who adults marry.
Perez Hilton the mincing poof should be tarred and feathered.
That is very illogical. Who says that gay marriage makes straight people want a divorce? You make no sense!
Gay marriage is just so phaggy.
BIFF...............





ARE YOU GAY???????????
i think you've got it